I recently saw a video from a well-known “manifestation specialist” suggesting a hack to stay in alignment throughout the day: set numerous alarms on your phone as reminders to check your vibration and make sure it matches what you’re trying to manifest.
So, I tried it.
I really did.
I really did.
But I didn’t even make it two weeks.
As it turns out, being jolted out of flow every 90 minutes by a robotic alarm didn’t raise my vibe — it tanked it. And it didn’t just stress me out… it rattled everyone around me too. The constant buzzing started to feel less like alignment and more like anxiety.
While I can absolutely see how this technique might be powerful for someone else — especially if they thrive on structure or reminders — it just wasn’t for me. It felt more like spiritual micromanaging than spiritual embodiment.
So I gave it some thought. I sat with the intention behind the idea — the desire to stay present and in sync with my energy — and asked myself:
“How can I check in with myself throughout the day… in a way that feels natural, peaceful, and supportive?”
And a few gentle ideas came forward.
Here Are My Favorite Vibe Check-In Practices (No Alarms Required):
🌿 1. Anchor Your Check-In to Daily Rituals
Instead of setting a timer, attach your check-ins to something you already do:
- When you make your tea or coffee
- When you wash your hands
- When you get into your car or open your computer
Each time, ask yourself:
“How do I feel right now? Am I in alignment with how I want to feel?”
This creates rhythm, not disruption.
✨ 2. Use Physical Anchors
Carry a small object — like a crystal, a ring, or even a coin — and let it become your “vibe touchstone.” Every time you notice or touch it, pause and take a deep breath.
Let that breath be your reminder:
“Realignment is always one breath away.”
🌕 3. Use the Moon Phases as Bigger Check-In Points
Instead of trying to force micro-alignments all day, zoom out and work with natural rhythms.
In my 28-day manifestation journey, we follow the CBAR cycle — Conceive, Believe, Achieve, Receive — aligned with the moon’s phases. Each phase invites a deeper self-check-in, naturally.
In my 28-day manifestation journey, we follow the CBAR cycle — Conceive, Believe, Achieve, Receive — aligned with the moon’s phases. Each phase invites a deeper self-check-in, naturally.
Want to try it?
👉 Learn more about the CBAR Manifestation Cycle here
👉 Learn more about the CBAR Manifestation Cycle here
🌀 4. Ask One Grounding Question Each Day
Instead of checking your vibe constantly, anchor into one question in the morning and revisit it at night. Here are a few to try:
- “What energy do I want to bring into today?”
- “What would being in alignment feel like today?”
- “What would it look like to let today be enough?”
You can keep a small Vibration Journal (even just a few lines a day!) to track what comes up. I include this practice in my 1:1 coaching sessions — especially for folks who prefer a less visual approach to manifestation.
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💜 5. Let Your Body Be Your Feedback System
Your nervous system is wiser than your phone.
Tight jaw? Racing heart? Brain fog? Your body is already signaling that something’s out of sync.
Joyful sigh? Soft shoulders? Clear mind? That’s alignment, baby.
Tight jaw? Racing heart? Brain fog? Your body is already signaling that something’s out of sync.
Joyful sigh? Soft shoulders? Clear mind? That’s alignment, baby.
The more you practice tuning in to how you feel — not just what you're thinking — the more natural these check-ins become.
Alignment Doesn’t Have to Be Loud
What I’ve learned is that staying in alignment doesn’t require constant effort, or external alerts, or spiritual over-engineering.
It requires presence.
Curiosity.
Self-trust.
Curiosity.
Self-trust.
And sometimes, it means ditching someone else’s hack and crafting your own sacred rhythm instead.
So if alarms aren’t your thing, know this: You’re not doing it wrong.
There are softer ways. Wiser ways. Ways that meet you exactly where you are.
There are softer ways. Wiser ways. Ways that meet you exactly where you are.
Ready to explore a more intuitive approach to manifestation — especially if your mind works a little differently?
My programs are designed with spaciousness, play, and deep inner knowing in mind. Whether you’re starting your journey or refining your practice, I’ve got support to meet you there.
My programs are designed with spaciousness, play, and deep inner knowing in mind. Whether you’re starting your journey or refining your practice, I’ve got support to meet you there.
There’s a moment on the spiritual path that no one really warns you about. It comes after the breakthroughs.
After the ahas. After the downloads, awakenings, and bursts of creative fire.
It’s quiet here. Still.
Almost... too still.
For me, it came like this: I’d been on a whirlwind of spiritual growth for months — learning, unlearning, expanding, purging, creating, questioning, trusting. It was exhilarating. Dizzying. Purposeful.
And then, it stopped. No drama. No crash. Just… the absence of the urge to keep digging.
I felt so different, yet somehow still the same. I didn't want to study anything.
I didn’t feel called to create anything. I wasn’t seeking more. I didn’t need to.
I felt so different, yet somehow still the same. I didn't want to study anything.
I didn’t feel called to create anything. I wasn’t seeking more. I didn’t need to.
And for a moment, I wondered: Is something wrong with me? Am I stuck? Am I disconnected?
But here's what I’ve come to understand: this phase is sacred.
The Integration Phase: Where Spirit Settles into Self
The integration phase is the time after an energetic or emotional expansion where your mind, body, and soul begin to synthesize what you’ve just experienced. You’re not in motion anymore, but you're still transforming — just beneath the surface.
You can think of it like this:
- After a big meal, you need time to digest.
- After an intense yoga practice, you lie in savasana.
- After planting seeds, the soil looks still — but magic is happening underground.
Spiritual integration is that kind of stillness.
You’re metabolizing lessons. You’re recalibrating.
Old patterns are quietly unraveling.
New frequencies are settling into your system.
Old patterns are quietly unraveling.
New frequencies are settling into your system.
And because we live in a world that equates stillness with stagnation, it can feel unnerving. Like you’ve lost momentum. But in truth, you’re entering a more embodied state — where wisdom isn't just understood intellectually, but lived quietly and naturally.
This is where your soul stops shouting and begins to whisper.
Where the chase ends, and you begin to trust the becoming.
Where the chase ends, and you begin to trust the becoming.
How to Find Peace Inside the Integration Phase
There’s no rush here. No "next step" to push toward.
But if you’re craving some gentle support inside this stillness, here are a few soul-honoring ways to soften into it:
But if you’re craving some gentle support inside this stillness, here are a few soul-honoring ways to soften into it:
1. Let stillness be the practice.
You don’t need to force peace — just make space for it.
Five quiet minutes with your eyes closed. A slow walk without your phone. A full body sigh.
Stillness is not empty. It’s full of presence.
Five quiet minutes with your eyes closed. A slow walk without your phone. A full body sigh.
Stillness is not empty. It’s full of presence.
2. Anchor your days with tiny rituals.
A candle in the morning. A single oracle card. A warm cup of tea in the same mug every day.
Ritual helps you feel held — without requiring anything from you.
Ritual helps you feel held — without requiring anything from you.
3. Give yourself permission to be unproductive.
This is integration’s greatest challenge. Your worth is not in your doing. Let yourself rest without guilt. You are still growing, even in the pause.
4. Journal what feels complete.
Instead of asking what's next, try asking:
“What is done?”
“What no longer needs my energy?”
Sometimes clarity arrives when we stop trying to make something happen.
5. Trust your rhythm.
The urge to create or seek will return, naturally. Don’t worry about missing it — you’ll know. For now, let this be enough.
A Gentle Ritual for the Spiritual Pause
If you’re in this space right now — not hungry for more, but not lost either — consider honoring this phase with a simple ritual:
The Candle & Cup Ritual
🕯️ Light a small candle.
🥣 Pour yourself a cup of tea or water.
🌬️ Sit in stillness for three breaths.
📖 Then say aloud or in your heart:
🥣 Pour yourself a cup of tea or water.
🌬️ Sit in stillness for three breaths.
📖 Then say aloud or in your heart:
“I welcome this stillness.
I trust the pause.
I honor all that has shifted within me.
I allow this integration to unfold in perfect time.
I am enough, even in the quiet.”
Drink slowly. Breathe deeply. No need to feel anything special. Just be there.
A Journaling Prompt for This Space
When you're ready to reflect, try this:
“What feels complete in me right now?”Followed by:“What do I no longer need to chase?”
Let the answers rise without force. Sometimes the deepest wisdom emerges not from asking, but from allowing the space to receive.
If you’re here — in the in-between, the neutral zone, the eye of your own inner storm — take heart. You are not broken. You are not lazy. You are not behind.
You are becoming.
In stillness.
In softness.
In surrender.
In stillness.
In softness.
In surrender.
And that is sacred work, too.
Starting my journey as a spiritual mindset coach, I faced an unexpected challenge: the shadow of comparison. I found myself constantly measuring my progress against renowned figures in the field, like Gabby Bernstein. Her success and confidence seemed light-years ahead of where I was, and it paralyzed me with fear. But today, I'm here to say: I am not Gabby Bernstein, and that's perfectly okay.
In the beginning, my inner critic was loud. It whispered doubts and fostered insecurities, convincing me that I wasn't good enough. I was so focused on what others were doing that I forgot to listen to my own voice. This comparison trap didn't just hinder my growth; it lowered my vibration and diluted my power of manifestation. When we're constantly looking outward, we lose touch with our unique gifts and the energy that makes us who we are.
Comparison is a thief of joy and an enemy of authenticity. It disconnects us from our essence, creating a barrier to our true potential. When we compare ourselves to others, we emit a vibration of lack and scarcity, which in turn blocks the flow of abundance into our lives. Manifestation thrives on a high vibration, one that is aligned with love, gratitude, and self-belief.
Breaking free from this cycle wasn't easy, but it was necessary. One of the first steps I took was practicing gratitude for my own journey. I began each day by acknowledging my achievements, no matter how small, which shifted my focus from what I lacked to what I already had. This simple practice helped raise my vibration and opened my heart to new possibilities.
Another pivotal step was cultivating self-compassion. I learned to treat myself with kindness and understanding, recognizing that my path is unique. Everyone's journey is different, and there's no one-size-fits-all approach to success. Embracing my imperfections allowed me to embrace my authenticity, which is the essence of true power.
Mindfulness played a crucial role in transforming my mindset. By staying present, I could catch myself whenever I slipped into the comparison trap. I practiced mindfulness meditation to center myself and reconnect with my inner wisdom. This practice helped me become more aware of my thoughts and feelings, empowering me to choose love over fear.
Setting boundaries with social media was another game-changer. I curated my online environment, unfollowing accounts that triggered self-doubt and seeking out those that inspired and uplifted me. By consciously choosing what I consumed, I created a space that nurtured my growth and aligned with my values.
Engaging in self-reflection and journaling was also invaluable. Writing down my thoughts allowed me to process my emotions and gain clarity on my goals. Through journaling, I discovered patterns in my thinking that were holding me back, and I could consciously work to change them.
I also sought out a community of like-minded individuals who supported and encouraged me. Surrounding myself with positive influences reminded me that I wasn't alone on this journey. Together, we celebrated each other's successes, and this camaraderie helped me build confidence in my unique abilities.
Affirmations became a daily ritual. I crafted powerful statements that resonated with my soul, repeating them until they became an integral part of my belief system. Affirmations like "I am enough," "I am worthy of success," and "I trust my journey" helped rewire my mindset and boost my self-esteem.
Lastly, I allowed myself to learn from others without comparing. I shifted my perspective from competition to inspiration, understanding that there's enough success for everyone. Each person's journey can teach us valuable lessons, and by celebrating others, we raise our collective vibration.
The journey to self-empowerment is ongoing, but each step forward brings me closer to my authentic self. I now understand that I don't need to be Gabby Bernstein or anyone else; I just need to be the best version of myself. By embracing my uniqueness, I'm stepping into my power and manifesting a life that's truly aligned with my purpose.
If you're struggling with comparison, remember: your journey is your own, and it's beautiful just as it is.
So many of us grow up being told to “chase our dreams.” We imagine the dream job, the dream house, the dream partner—visions of a perfect life that gleam like a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow. But what if the pursuit of that dream life actually leaves us feeling more lost than fulfilled? What if there’s something deeper, more powerful, and more lasting than our dreams? That something is purpose.
Purpose is not about achieving a specific outcome. It’s not a promotion, a house, or a vacation lifestyle. Purpose is about contribution, alignment, and meaning. It’s what pulls you out of bed in the morning and makes you feel alive even when things aren’t going perfectly. Chasing dreams can lead to burnout or disillusionment if those dreams aren’t rooted in something deeper. But when you live from your purpose, you thrive even in the face of obstacles.
Dreams are often shaped by external influence—what we see on social media, what our parents wanted for us, what we think we “should” do to feel successful. Purpose, on the other hand, comes from within. It’s tied to your unique soul blueprint—your values, your natural gifts, your lived experiences. Dreams can be fleeting. Purpose evolves, but it stays with you. It grows as you grow.
When you pursue a dream that isn’t connected to your true purpose, it can feel like you’re climbing a ladder that’s leaning against the wrong wall. You might achieve success, but still feel empty or off-course. On the flip side, people who live with a strong sense of purpose often report greater fulfillment, resilience, and even better health—no matter what their external life looks like.
So how do you find your purpose?
First, get quiet. Turn down the noise of the outside world and tune into your own inner knowing. Meditation, journaling, and solo walks in nature can help you hear your inner voice. Ask yourself: What lights me up? What challenges have I overcome that I can help others with? What do people often come to me for? These clues can point you toward your deeper why.
Second, reflect on your values. What matters most to you? Integrity, creativity, service, freedom? Identifying your core values can help you make choices that feel aligned and meaningful. When you live in harmony with your values, you automatically begin to move in the direction of your purpose—even if it doesn’t look like the life you originally dreamed of.
Third, take inspired action. Purpose isn’t something you think your way into—it’s something you live your way into. Volunteer, start a passion project, join a cause, or mentor someone. Don’t wait until everything is perfectly clear. Clarity comes from movement. Each step you take reveals more of the path.
Fourth, pay attention to what feels easy and energizing. Your purpose often flows through your natural gifts and joys. That thing you do that feels effortless but lights up others? That’s a breadcrumb. Follow it. Purpose doesn’t always feel like a lightning bolt. Sometimes it whispers through the things that come most naturally to you.
Finally, allow your purpose to evolve. You’re not meant to stay the same forever, and neither is your purpose. What’s true for you now might shift in five or ten years—and that’s okay. Stay curious. Stay open. Keep asking deeper questions. Your purpose isn’t a destination. It’s a way of being in the world that brings your soul to life.
In the end, chasing a dream life might bring you fleeting highs—but living your purpose brings you lasting fulfillment. When you live with purpose, your life becomes the dream—not because it’s perfect, but because it’s real, rich, and meaningful. And that, more than anything, is what we’re all truly searching for.
In our fast-paced world, the pressure to achieve perfection can often overshadow the beauty of simply being present. We are constantly bombarded with images of idealized lives and unattainable standards. This pursuit of perfection can lead to stress, anxiety, and a sense of inadequacy. However, by shifting our focus to being present, we can find joy and fulfillment in the here and now.
Being present means engaging fully with the current moment, appreciating the small details, and embracing the imperfections that make life unique. It allows us to connect more deeply with our surroundings, our experiences, and the people we encounter. This connection fosters a sense of gratitude and contentment that perfection cannot provide.
Moreover, when we prioritize being present over being perfect, we open ourselves up to authenticity. We become more comfortable with our true selves, acknowledging our strengths and accepting our weaknesses. This authenticity encourages genuine relationships, as others are drawn to our openness and honesty.
In the realm of personal growth, being present fosters a mindset of curiosity and learning. Instead of focusing on flawless execution, we become more willing to take risks and learn from our mistakes. This resilience builds confidence and encourages innovation, as we are not paralyzed by the fear of failure.
In our professional lives, the emphasis on presence over perfection can lead to greater creativity and productivity. When we let go of the need for everything to be perfect, we allow ourselves the freedom to explore new ideas and approaches. This can result in more dynamic and effective solutions, ultimately benefiting our careers and the organizations we work for.
In relationships, being present enhances communication and understanding. By truly listening and engaging with those around us, we foster deeper connections and empathy. This approach enriches our interactions, leading to more meaningful and fulfilling relationships.
In the realm of self-care, being present encourages mindfulness and wellbeing. It helps us to slow down and appreciate the moment, reducing stress and increasing our overall happiness. By focusing on the present, we can better manage our mental and emotional health, leading to a more balanced and fulfilling life.
For those pursuing creative endeavors, being present allows for greater artistic expression. By embracing the process rather than fixating on the end result, we tap into our innate creativity and produce work that is both authentic and inspiring. This approach celebrates the journey and the growth that comes with it.
In education, teaching the value of presence over perfection can empower students to explore their passions without fear. It encourages a love of learning and fosters an environment where curiosity is nurtured. This perspective helps students develop a growth mindset, preparing them for lifelong success.
Ultimately, choosing to be present rather than perfect is a powerful act of self-acceptance and liberation. It allows us to live more fully, savoring the richness of life’s experiences without the burden of unrealistic expectations. By embracing this mindset, we can find peace and joy in the present moment, leading to a more fulfilling and meaningful life.
