Who is Colleen Soper?
  
For a long time, I didn't know who I was.

I knew how to be a daughter. A young mother. An employee. A wife. The person people could count on. I knew how to adapt, how to survive, and how to keep moving forward.

What I didn't always know was how to hear myself underneath all of those roles.

I grew up between rural New Jersey and the suburbs of Philadelphia, one of four kids raised by a hardworking mother who somehow made daily miracles look ordinary. She taught me independence, determination, and probably more than a little of my willingness to figure things out as I go.

I was the rebel of the family. Not necessarily a bad kid — just a kid who wasn't quite sure where she fit.

At 18, I became a mother to my son, John. College went on hold, adulthood arrived early, and I learned very quickly that sometimes you have to become your own hero before you feel remotely qualified for the job.

A few years later, I found my way into property management. What started as an assistant position became a career spanning more than two decades. It taught me how much I genuinely love helping people solve problems, recognize possibilities, and move forward when something feels stuck.

But while I was building a career and taking care of everyone around me, I slowly lost touch with myself.

Finding My Way Back to Me

At 26, I entered an emotionally abusive marriage that lasted two years but affected me long after it ended. I left guarded, insecure, and disconnected from parts of myself I didn't yet know how to reclaim.

A couple of years later, I met the man who would become my second husband. Over the course of our sixteen-year relationship, something happened that I now recognize in so many other women:
I disappeared into my own life. His hobbies became my hobbies. His interests became my interests. Somewhere along the way, I stopped asking myself what I wanted.

Near the end of our marriage, I began journaling, meditating, working with tarot, hiking, and spending time alone in nature. Nothing changed overnight. I simply started paying attention to myself again.

Eventually, I moved out on my own for the first time in my life. I still remember calling a friend in tears because I couldn't answer one ridiculously simple question: What do I like to watch on television?
It sounds small. It wasn't. I had spent so much time adapting to other people that I genuinely didn't know. That became the beginning of learning myself again.

Becoming Intentional

Over the next several years, spirituality became an important part of that process. Meditation, journaling, tarot, mindfulness, nature, and an evolving relationship with the Universe gave me ways to slow down and listen to myself.

Eventually, I packed up my little apartment and moved to Florida.

That move represented something much bigger than geography. I was making a decision based on the life I wanted to experience. And little by little, that became the question underneath everything:
What happens when we stop living by default and start choosing intentionally?
That question eventually changed the way I thought about identity, relationships, manifestation, money, purpose, self-trust, and personal growth itself.

Then I Discovered Aphantasia

Along the way, I learned something else that changed my understanding of myself: I have aphantasia. I don't create mental pictures in my mind.

Suddenly, years of confusion during guided meditations made sense. When someone told me to “picture” a beach, “see” my future self, or visualize the life I wanted, everyone else apparently wasn't speaking metaphorically. 
For a while, I wondered whether that meant I was doing something wrong.
Eventually, I realized the opposite.
My brain had already taught me something incredibly valuable:
There is more than one way to experience yourself, connect with yourself, and create change.
Visualization is a tool. It isn't a requirement. That realization became an important part of how I teach today. My work is intentionally aphantasia-inclusive and offers multiple ways to learn, reflect, practice, and integrate — because personal growth shouldn't require everyone to think, feel, believe, or process information exactly the same way.

Why I Do This Work

Today, my work brings together the lessons I've gathered from all of it — identity, self-trust, nervous system awareness, mindset, spirituality, intentional action, manifestation, relationships, money, purpose, and the very human process of figuring yourself out as you go.

I'm not interested in teaching people how to become some perfectly healed, perpetually positive version of themselves.
I'm interested in something much more useful: Helping people understand themselves well enough to choose themselves.

That's what Education for a more intentional you means to me.
It's not about having everything figured out. It's about paying attention. Asking better questions. Recognizing your patterns. Trusting your own experience. Making choices that actually belong to you. And understanding that becoming isn't something you finish.

It's something you practice.
Ready to Start Where You Are?
You don't need to have everything figured out before you begin.
Whether you're exploring your identity, relationship with money, love, purpose, spirituality, manifestation, or simply trying to understand yourself a little better, there's a place for you here.
Explore the books, workbooks, journals, resources, and experiences I've created to help you turn insight into something you can actually use in your life.
You don't have to know exactly where you're going.
You just need to choose your next intentional step.
   

Copyright Colleen Soper